Recently I’ve been thinking a lot about authenticity and how the concept relates to relationships. Everywhere I turn I see people using the word “authentic”. I follow George Kao on FB because his messages about being authentic in business resonate strongly with me. I also follow his FB account, Soul Gym (check it out), where he explores personal authenticity and spiritual growth. Without personally knowing him I feel that he is “authentic” and I have a sense that he and his wife have an authentic relationship.
I also follow Iesha Delune (also a friend) who is a life coach. Iesha teaches (my interpretation) that stress is a symptom that indicates we are operating away from the core of our authentic true selves; she helps people to find their authentic true self and move towards it. I feel that Iesha is authentic. If you’re interested I highly recommend her book, The Happiness Recipe, and that you follow her on FB (Wholistic Vitality). I see multiple posts daily that urge people to “be authentic” and ads for life coaches who want to help people becume more authentic. It seems that some days I feel bombarded by authenticity (that’s probably just the good ole FB algorithm picking up on my interests).
As someone who is keenly interested in being authentic and living authentically, I started thinking about authenticity with respect to relationships. What does it mean to have an authentic relationship with someone, whether a life partner, family member (parent, child, aunt, uncle), or friend. What does an authentic relationship look like? Is is necessary or desireable to have an authentic relationship with everyone? Is there a downside to having an authentic relationship? Is there a downside to being completely authentic in a relationship? What does it mean to “be authentic”, and what does that mean in the context of a relationship? Is authenticity static? Or is it dynamic and ever-changing? Wow my brain hurts!
I don’t profess to have the answers to these questions. Just as every person has their own unique authentic self, I suspect every relationship has a unique authenticity. Follow me as I explore these concepts over the next few weeks and, by all means, join in the discussion!