Should We Wait to Agree on Splitting our Assets?
After separation, some people want to focus on parenting arrangements first and deal with property later. There are some possible reasons for this:1. dealing with numbers is boring or intimidating to many people, and it can be very complex if businesses or trusts are involved2. there can be a lot of information that you need…
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A New Relationship?
If you’ve already been through a failed relationship then you probably don’t want a repeat performance. If you’re considering getting into another relationship you should know that emotional intelligence is critical to relationship success. Gottman Institute research in 1999 showed that 65% of men do not have a high level of Emotional Intelligence (EQ) and…
Strategies for reducing conflict – part 3
If you’ve gotten through my previous posts and have mastered ‘beginner’ and ‘intermediate’ strategies to reduce conflict with the other parent, you might be ready for some more advanced strategies. Eliminate the Scarcity Mindset Stop keeping track of your time with the children. A scarcity mindset can lead you to keep frustration, a deep sense…
Can One Person Change the Dynamics of A Relationship?
Yes you can! When things aren’t going smoothly in a relationship many of us have a tendency to blame the other for all the difficulties. OK, we might take a wee bit of the blame ourselves, but some people tend to lay the majority of blame for the bad stuff on the other. This is…
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Strategies for reducing conflict with the other parent – Part 2
In this post I share some more advanced strategies to help reduce conflict with the other parent. Let’s recap the last post: Learn how to control your emotions better when you interact with the other parent. Understand the signs that you’re about to ‘flip your lid’ and be prepared to make a quick exit.Reduce /…
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How to start reducing conflict with the other parent
This blog post explores some basic strategies you can employ to reduce conflict with the other parent. The Gottman Institute has been studying relationships for decades. This statistic comes from studies done on couples who are in an intimate relationship. So, I reckon the statistic would probably be very close to 100% for interactions between…
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